It’s funny, (or maybe it’s not, but it is to me) that as I keep thinking about the “Important” things, that the list keeps getting longer and longer.
I’ve not actually written anything down, as of yet,Â and some of these are much more inclusive than just the word, but I’m just going to start with some of the things that I’ve been thinking about.
This means both my immediate family of 6 and my larger family as well.Â I want to be available for myÂ kids.Â Â I will only ever have this time with them once.Â And I want to make it count.Â I want to be present, here and now.Â not just at home when they come home from school, but off the computer, and actuallyÂ paying attention to them.Â I want to be able to help out with their homework and to teach them how to cook and bakeÂ and to do crafts with them.Â Â I want toÂ not be so tired from half assed doing other things that all I want to do is foist them off on the TV so that I can sit and veg. on the computer.Â Â I want to grow in friendship and trust with them and to teach them how to communicate their feelings and wnats and desires and how to effectively communicate even the negative emotions.Â I want to have time to spend with my extended family.Â I want my kids to grow up knowing their grandparents, and aunts and Uncles and Cousins and even their great grandparents and great aunts and uncles and second cousins.Â Family is so important and I really want to have a sense of closeness in what is rapidly becoming such an “Island” world….I want to cultivate (as much as I can) the sense of “Village”.
This is a huge one including Food, cleaning, Exercise, and a buch of other stuff as well.Â I want to be able to cook good healthy food for my kids and I want to train them to love to put healthy stuff into their bodies.Â I don’t want it to be a fad…I want it to be a lifestyle.Â Not so stringent that they feel the need to stuff their faces every time Mom or Dad isn’t looking, but I want them to be able to make good choices for the long haul.Â I also want to make the healthiest choices regarding cleaning supplies.Â At this point, the decision that slightly been taking out of our hands just because ‘Siah seems to have a reaction to SLS and so that means that we have to find alternatives, but now, I use things like vinegar for all my windows and mirrors and I think it works WAAAAAAY better than Windex ever did.Â AndÂ I like the fact that my floor cleaner residueÂ won’t get all over ‘Siah as he’s crawling around.Â i could go on and on about this, but I’ll spare you.Â Also, included in this section is exercise.Â I HAVE to make time to exercise.Â IÂ WANT to make time to exercise and so it will be done.Â It just hasn’t been done, yet….soon, though…soon!
I want to clearly set aside time and effort to put into Jon and I’s relationship.Â I want it to be deliberate.Â I don’t want to find out 20 years down the road that we wished that we had put the time it…..I want to continue to build on this GREAT friendship that we have and to be an example to our kids for years to come.
I want to have time planned for me to do things like the different crafts that I like to do.Â Already since just trying to slow my life down, but not being entirely purposeful about it, I’ve crochetted or knitted two kimono style sweaters, three vests, a hat and I’ve started a few other pieces.Â I made a bead necklace.Â I’d like to paint some more and to do some more paper crafts as well.Â I also want to set aside more time to find and make more healthy baking for my family.Â I enjoy baking and to find stuff that we can all eat and that tastes delicious, that makes me happy and brings a sense of satisfaction.
None of this is in any particular order of importance and thereÂ are still more that I’m thinking about and even more to flesh out in each particular category, but it’s a start.Â To know what I want helps me to see what I shouldn’t be doing.Â
I think that I’ll be taking stock regularly of where I’m at and what’s important to me and why?Â See, life changes and things move up and down the importance scale, and I’ve lived enough to know and recognize that just because this is where I’m at and these are the things that are important to me right now, that doesn’t mean that I get to go on autopilot like this for the rest of my life…..NO!Â What was important to me in the months and years before I had Josiah changed when he came and when he turns 1 or 2 or 5 – it stands a good chance of changing again…in September it might all change or over the summer months or when Geli goes to middle school.Â I think that any big life shift or change necessitates a peek inside as to what’s important to me “NOW”!Â and how can I accomplish that and what needs to be re-evaluated and possibly let go of…for a time or forever…..
It’s about what’s important to you……..asking yourself “What is important to me?” and “How do I accomplish that?”Â
If you want something enough, you will figure out a way to make it happen.
I want a slower, more simple life.