In talking about the different seasons that we might be in or going through, I want to be clear…
The season that you are in may or may not be, a very difficult one. I don’t want to discredit that fact that you might be struggling and that it might be tough…..like REALLY TOUGH.
It’s okay to not like where you are at. It’s okay for you to feel that things are difficult and that you’d really rather not be dealing with what you are dealing with.
If you are a mom with young kids…that is a LOT of work! There is a lot required of you. It’s tough. It’s tiring, and in the moment, it can be TOTALLY THANKLESS! You probably won’t “see” the rewards of your hard work right away. You’ll end up doing the same things over and over and over until it makes you feel slightly insane. You may not be able to “do” all the things that others without kids are able to do. You might miss out on certain events or trips or opportunities. You might feel extremely frustrated. It’s okay. You have a tough job. It’s difficult. It’s tiring. It’s overwhelming. It’s not very glamorous. In the thick of it all, it feels like a pretty cruddy job.
If you are working – that can be a lot. Regardless of whether you are working for yourself or for someone else. There is a lot of stress and strain, of trying to meet deadlines and get everything accomplished. You may not feel appreciated. You may feel like what you are doing is pointless. The only thing keeping you there may be the (feeling like never enough) finances that you get as a result of that job. It’s okay. It’s hard work. It’s okay to feel tired and worn out and overwhelmed. It’s okay to feel unappreciated.
You may have a sick child. That’s a tough job. Advocating for your child is a LOT of work. Whether they have mental, emotional, or physical issues. It’s difficult. It’s time consuming. Trying to keep all the facts straight is hard work. Watching your child suffer is brutal. Being “the voice” for them is tough. It’s okay to be upset and angry and to feel overwhelmed.
Maybe you can’t get pregnant. Maybe you have children, but you lost one. Maybe you can no longer have children. Maybe you wish you were married or wish you could get out of a bad situation. Maybe your partner died. Maybe you lost a job or your home or a car or a pet. Maybe a dream has been lost to you. All of those are tough situations. It’s okay to be upset about it. It’s okay to be sad or mad or disappointed or angry.
Your feelings are valid.
It’s okay to embrace how you are feeling. It’s okay to acknowledge that what you are going through sucks and that you wish you didn’t have to go through it. You are allowed to be upset that things didn’t or haven’t turned out the way that you’d hoped or planned for.
We all go through situations that are tough and in talking about them as “Seasons”, my goal is not to downplay the difficulty of where you are at. No, it’s to encourage you that many times in our lives, we will come up against situations that either are, or seem very difficult; or situations that just plain suck. I want to encourage you that even though you may be in a dark place…..morning will come. The dawn will break and things will change.
You may not see how it’s possible. You may not feel like it’s gonna happen anytime soon. You may not know the time frame that things will get better in. You may not see how it’s all going to work out. But…..things will change. Things may get better or they may just change.
The intensity that you are feeling things with….it will change.
Seasons Change. They do………
Just like spring flows into summer and then into autumn and then into winter and back again…..the times in our lives keep changing. We may not have a “date” attached to it, like spring or summer do, but one day you’ll look back and see that things have changed.
In the mean time, while you’re in the thick of “it all”, sometimes, just knowing that you are in a season can help. Knowing that it’s not always going to be exactly like it is now…sometimes, that can help you to see beyond the intensity of where you are currently at. It can help you to be able to breathe and to be able to find the beauty and the “life” in the middle of your chaos. Sometimes just knowing that one day this time will be beyond you, can help to knock the narrow focused lenses of hurt and pain and intensity off your eyes, even for one brief moment. In that moment, maybe you can see that there is light coming down the road…..even if it happens to be a far ways off. Hopefully, that glimpse brings hope!
In the middle of all of my chaos, I want to be able to see the beauty. I want to LIVE, not just exist. In life, I get both the good and the bad. I acknowledge the bad and embrace the good. Yah, it’s true, sometimes the seasons in my life suck. That can be true, but once I’ve acknowledged that…….then where do I go from here?
Hopefully, I take one step forward, which brings me closer to the next season……
Seasons One and Two are beautifully written by an amazing woman. 🙂
Beautifully written! This so resonates with me and my journey. You are an amazing woman of God.